Mindful Counseling for Complex Trauma: Anxiety, Shame, Stuckness
~ Ron Kurtz, Body-Centered Psychotherapy, p. 167
In focusing my career on those therapies that bring a felt and lasting change, I have been drawn to ‘transformative’ approaches in connection with trauma theories. These are approaches that directly change the way we treat ourselves and therefore the way it feels to live in our skin and be the person that we are. In practical terms, we study together the ways that your mind organizes and adapts around traumatic memory.
My theory of change focuses on internal ‘integration through differentiation’. This is a natural cycle of pulling apart, identifying and defining individual parts, and bringing those defined parts back together into a cohesive whole. One assumption here is that external relationship patterns echo internal relationship patterns. The way we relate to ourselves directly affects our relationship with others. It is our ability to love and be loved, and it is often entangled by conflicting beliefs about self – by the many ways we contain parts of self in the wake of trauma.
This model is informed by Hakomi Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Existential Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Narrative Therapy, Interpersonal Neurobiology, and Adaptive Information Processing. Techniques used — often involving bodywork and mindfulness — commonly bring awareness and acceptance at a core level, decrease long-held defenses, and develop an ability to ‘take in’ missing experience: that which we simultaneously ‘yearn for’ and push away. (“I want to be loved while convincing others I am unworthy,” “I want to be taken care of and instead present as self-sufficient and without need, taking care of others while not letting them take care of me,” etc.)
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~ Christina Enevoldsen
“All any feeling wants is to be welcomed with tenderness. It wants room to unfold. It wants to relax and tell its story. It wants to dissolve like a thousand writhing snakes that with a flick of kindness become harmless strands of rope.”