Complex Trauma and Stuckness
Trauma is everybody.
It is part of the human condition.
Our various natural responses to trauma are part of what make us so extremely adaptable to a wide variety of environments and cultures around the world.
While many of us tend to either romanticize or demonize the label of trauma, trauma is not who we are. Life sometimes exceeds our neurobiopsychosocial capacities. We respond to it, and we adapt to it. And sometimes we get stuck in the adaptation.
Trauma represents all our metaphors for structures of power, and it influences our sense of agency – our ability to pursue purpose and place. Whatever your relationship to trauma, none of us escape it. It has, in some way (sometimes positive ways), shaped each of our lives.
If you or your partner (individual or couples counseling) are experiencing normal psychological issues – general anxiety, social anxiety, depression, dissociation, grieving, social struggles, isolation, personality ‘disorders’, etc. – you may benefit from trauma-aware therapy…therapy where focus is given to your biological responses, to the schemas or meaning that form the foundation of how you interact with the world around you.
Many seek treatment for anxiety or for depression, thinking they do not qualify for trauma work or unaware of the ways past trauma changes present experience. While much of the work depends on the client and no counseling work can guarantee change, my approach remains flexible and accommodates a wide range of presenting issues, from grieving to PTSD. My goals include safety, stabilization, and gentle/challenging movement into the life you really want.
“We deceive ourselves to think that if we pulsate and vary our self-expression, we are unstable and unreliable and don’t know who we are. On the basis of this self deception, we go on to seek our identity according to the definitions of socially approved roles. We deny the changing patterns of our individuation by trying to maintain an unchanging image. But a rigid identity is not individuality. To affirm our individuality, we have to give up our search for static roles and attitudes and, instead, seek connectedness with our own pulsatory rhythms. To be an individual is to impress the world with one’s varying expression rather than merely to mimic the expression of somebody else.”
(Keleman: Vibration, Pulsation, and Streaming, p. 40)